And last Monday, February 29, I told myself I will do something I do not commonly do on this extra day of the year. It’s nothing big really! I just took time to be with my little girl, to enjoy some good laughs ad cuddles with her at home. Then I did not do work! I tried working on myself. I brought out my Mindful Mom Re-Treat worksheets for me to work on and also started plotting what I have at the moment.
You see, life happens. No matter how seemingly perfect a loving relationship is, we get frustrated with a loved one. Despite the fulfillment and joys of motherhood, realities and demands can really throw me out of balance. And even make me question myself on my priorities. Amidst having a work we love, there are days that it can be exhausting! Life is not perfect!
I thought then, that I need to connect with myself and to calibrate! I am not excused to what life brings! That Monday, I took out my Mindful Mom Re-Treat worksheets that I myself co-created. Waha! I am literally confronted by my own questions! The struggle is real! When I posted in my social media account about my reflection, a friend commented, “Good to know, you are one of us!”
Of course I am one with everyone – especially mothers! I may be professionally working with families, children and moms yet I do have these down moments, actually! And maybe that’s the reason why it needs to happen, because I need it to be more in touch with who I am and my purpose!
When I shared this with a friend, she assured me that, the more we need you to share what you are going through and how you go through them so as to learn from each other. And that’s why I am posting about my own blues, because there is something we can grasp from it if we mindfully take time to listen to our inner voice.
Yet that day too, I am reminded to
“Live everyday with intentions!” And so I tried to set something for me to focus on! That Monday, it was about pacing myself and reconnecting with what’s happening with me. Tuesday was about pacing myself, despite my schedule is full. Wednesday was about celebrating love for myself and for my family! Today it’s Thursday, it is about being grateful for the things I have. Friday, it’s about fulfilling a goal despite the baby-steps I’m having.
I am not sulking on my blues or whatever day I feel down. Because I choose to pause, to pace, to re-calibrate myself. This is so I can celebrate who I am, celebrate what I love, celebrate with the ones I love and give more. Monday blues are not so bad then, as it is a calling too be simply embraced – embracing myself and being embraced my by Maker.
1 John 4:19 said, “We love because He first loved us!” When life is overwhelming, the Lord can overwhelm us with His overpowering love! And that is assuring enough.
And so how do I re-calibrate? I intend to…
• pray and spend more quiet time
• keeping my boundaries by saying “No” to matters that may be trivial to me at this point
• choose my battles wisely
• manage my energy more efficiently
• take pockets of time for self-care to do something recharging – it may be a home yoga practice, or a cup of tea while working, a 3-page read in a book, staring out in space, or just writing my thoughts.
It is living with intention that blues happen because I need to calibrate in order to celebrate life and love each day!
How are you calibrating in order to celebrate more?
